Sisters, put on your big girl panties, I’m about to engage the weave debate.
You must understand that for as long as the black girl feels they need a helmet on their head 24/7…….we have a problem. The question is WHAT are we hiding and WHY?
I have been engaging this issue for many years. Some people ‘Get It’ while others feel I should ‘Get over It.’
Let’s go through some of the reasons I think the weave is a dis-ease and a diss to the black girl.
Imitation gives power to the person you are emulating. When a person imitates me, I know they want to be like me.
Black girl, our hair is not naturally long and flowing. Accept it. Embrace it. Flaunt it.
Nobody in the world has hair like yours. Most of the other races have similar hair.
Our hair is unique. It stands out.
If you had to have a row of women of different races….the black girl’s hair would stand out the most.
Now why in the world would you give such power away? Why would you CHOOSE to look like other races, when you have such distinctive hair? Why would you not question WHY you hate what you look like?
We come from a history where being black was the worst thing to be born. White people came to our land and gave us all these ugly labels. Labels we have internalised. Labels like kaffirhare. Kaffirhare which is ugly, dirty and difficult to maintain. Not only did they give us ugly names for our hair but they then offered better jobs to blacks with straightened hair (like them). They groomed us into ‘ladies and gentlemen.’
If you looked and behaved white, it made you a ‘better black.’
Suddenly straight hair was associated with sophistication. The less black you looked the better your chances were economically. This is why coloureds would rather be white than black, because some of their hair texture gave them privileges.
From a deep psychological place, black people knew that they had to erase their blackness in order to get jobs and survive. This type of thinking has filtered down the generations. Our mothers and grandmothers would relax our hair in an effort to make us ‘job worthy’ and beautiful like white people. This happened so much, we even stopped thinking about it. We are just robots who go and put chemicals in our hair every month……unlike women of other races.
#ALL RACES WEAR WEAVE:
The percentage of black women who weave their hair is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than of women of other races. In fact, women of other races that put on weaves and lots of makeup are generally regarded as bimbos, because of their choice to be ‘fake.’ However in the black community, the majority of girls wear weaves. What does that say?
What makes matters worse is that when women of other races put weaves in their hair….you can’t tell because the weave looks like their natural hair.
That awkward moment when you wear fake hair black girl. That very awkward moment when you wear fake hair which doesn’t even look like yours. Oh nkosi!
It’s like someone putting a pair of jeans on their head and trying to convince you that it’s real.
Unless you have other blood, it is IMPOSSIBLE for black girls to have hair like Indians. Please accept this black girl? Your hair will NEVER be like Yasmin and Samantha’s- no matter how hard you try. You are trying too hard to have something that you will NEVER naturally have. Let it go. That is not your hair.
#I AM NOT MY HAIR
India Arie really messed us up with this one. Actually scientifically speaking, you are your hair. Doctors could take one strand of your hair and clone a whole other you. You are most certainly your hair. Your hair contains your DNA.
Nobody in the whole wide world has hair like yours.
Even if we all went natural and cut our hair the same length…..none of our hair would look the same. So when you say, ‘I weave for variety.’ You are lying. Weaves look the same that is not variety. And if you mean variety on your head, I’d like to remind you that of all the races, black people have the most versatile hair.
Even the black girls who have ditched the weave and tried natural, always go back to weave because we are held emotionally hostage by what other people do. So if the other black girls are keeping their weaves….the ones who tried natural go back to the weave because everybody is doing it and it’s called ‘beauty.’
Black men also seem to like weaves when they are rich and successful. To get a successful man, you must look a certain way….and that is usually the weave look. This also suggests that black men aspire to date women with long flowy hair…….ie not black women
If you run away from who you are….what is that saying about you? Who does that make you? If you are willing to pay over R5000 a month just not to look like yourself…..what is that saying? How are you going to be paying close to a hundred thousand a year just because you hate your hair? How does that sound healthy?
You invest so much money to hide your blackness and then tell me you don’t have a self worth issue? Come on now? Really?
Your money grows better when invested wisely. With all due respect….this is a foolish investment. It has no returns.
#RETURN ON INVESTMENT:
The only thing weaves return is a loss of hairline. After spending a million Rands on your hair, 10years later you are met with a ‘stadium.’
That’s where the real mindf* is for me…..you spend all this money on this weave to hide your real hair and then in the end you have no hair. Wow ladies. Wow. What a deal to make with the devil.
The devil makes you feel ugly about yourself then turns around and makes you ugly. The ugly truth is that women who wore weaves yesterday….don’t have hair today. And those weaves today hide a lot.
Black woman you are self destructing. You are destroying your own hair. You are hiding your own beauty.
You have lost the courage to be free and be yourself. When you look in the mirror at your natural state you do not feel beautiful…..THAT is the issue we have to address.
WHY do black women feel ugly/dirty in their natural hair?
#IT’S MY CHOICE
No sane person would CHOOSE to spend thousands of rand to burn their scalp and lose their hairline, unless some deep emotion was driving that action.
So, No, it is not JUST hair…….your spirit is carrying a lot of baggage.