31 ways to fall inlove


  1. You can wash your hair everyday if you want to
  2. You don’t come across as trying to be someone you are not
  3. Your hairline is intact
  4. You do not have 2 types of hair texture on your head
  5. You look like the same person all the time
  6. You can invest your money into something that yields returns
  7. Wether you are broke or not- it will never show in your hair
  8. When someone compliments your hair…..its actually yours
  9. Vanity makes women competitive, when you are comfortable in your own skin and hair- you don’t see other women as threats
  10. The fact that you accept yourself as you are tells the world you love yourself
  11. You don’t create beauty…you simply are beauty
  12. There  is nobody giggling at the fact that you are flicking hair that isn’t yours
  13. Natural beauty attracts words like queen and empress- which in turn becomes how the world treats you
  14. You will NEVER have to explain your natural beauty for it how you were created
  15. You do not have to buy anything to feel beautiful
  16. You don’t attract shallow men who are driven by fashion
  17. You can enjoy water
  18. You don’t have unrealistic expectations of what you actually look like
  19. It makes you look younger for longer
  20. You image of beauty is not dictated to you by white people
  21. You don’t have to keep tapping your head like you have lice
  22. You don’t have to clean up somebody else’s hair around your own house
  23. You don’t have somebody you don’t knows hair on your head
  24. You don’t feel like you are wearing a hat all the time
  25. You are not indirectly being groupie to girls with long, wavy hair
  26. You feel content EVERY time you look in the mirror because you are not obsessed with fixing yourself
  27. Your Natural hair is versatile, so you get to play with it. You can twist your hair at night and wake up to a brand new hairstyle
  28. Natural hair is easy to maintain
  29. You don’t buy into an industry that makes you feel insecure about yourself
  30. Natural hair with the right grooming has NO competition (ask Pearl Thusi)
  31. Being the Natural you makes people see the real you….not the you, you are dying to be



                                                                 TRUE LOVE IS SELF ACCEPTANCE


child of the nation


Child of the nation

How quickly you forget

The breast of freedom from which you suckle

That your mother defied armies of men

And held your hope in her belly


Child of the nation

How easily you are taught

To forget your own heroes

To surrender your greatness

And pretend that your mother isn’t a Goddess


Child of the nation

You forgave the enemy

Who killed multitudes of your people

And yet you still bear a grudge

For one stompie


Child of the nation

When your father gave your wealth away

It was your mother who said no

When your father moved to better

It was your mother who stayed among you


 Child of the nation

You baffle me when you

suggest that you mother should have

Gone without a tender touch for 27 years

And yet your own president has multiple wives


Child of the nation

You are more loyal to the stepmother

Who eats the fruits of your mothers labour

You fail to give your own mother recognition

You give away her jurisdiction


Child of the nation

You have forgotten how to think

Where there is light,

You see darkness

Here stands the reigning Queen

And all you see are lies.


Child of the nation

You have forgotten who you are

For What kind of a child

abuses their own mother?




What is this obsession with being better than other people?


Before the west set foot on these shores, African people were communal and worked together to achieve greater good FOR ALL.

Now we have a new breed of black people who want to feel more special than other blacks.


I understand that the black nation has always been at the bottom of the pile…but this approach of ‘helping only yourself’ is a bit troubling for me.

Over the past 20years I have watched new money take over people’s bodies. I have seen new money turn hustlers into assholes.


We have a new breed of blacks who are obsessed with being in the VIP section. That’s sad…..that you need validation by being in a ‘special’ corner of the same room.

Initially I thought it was because of the free alcohol…..but no, I have seen people STAY in the VIP section all night watching the ‘plebs’ across the string barrier. They just stand there with a drink and watch…..making sure they are seen in the VIP section.


There are people who will abandon their own friends just for a VIP ticket. There are people who will not go to places unless they are VIP.


My main concern is, are people not raised to KNOW that they are already VIP-with or without a plastic tag?

What is it, which makes people feel special about separating themselves from other people? Could this be western and ego driven behaviour? That same ugly behaviour that makes people feel and act superior. The same ugly behaviour, which white racism, has made Us, the brunt of? Are we doing to ourselves what racism has taught us? That some people are better than others…


I see that once people have sorted THEMSELVES out, then the rest don’t matter. I have seen this particularly in politics. Once you have the ‘right’ surname or are aligned with the right people, then you are sorted, and you turn a blind eye to needs of the majority people.


When black people were given political freedom (but not economic freedom) a few ‘special’ blacks were adopted into the white economy.


The South African economy was not broken down into more fair and just income levels, no, they just added a few bee faces in a continuing corrupt and unfair system. The white master just empowered 1 or 2 blacks- which in turn made us 1. Fight amongst each other to be the ‘special black’ and 2. It turns the 1 or 2 into nothing more than butlers of a white system.


None of these blacks that get special positions or are on the boards have effectively changed the system. The truth is, they don’t have the power to make any REAL changes in the various industries because they don’t own the cake. They were given crumbs to keep them busy, but they were not given any kind of REAL control. If they had REAL control….then their people would not still be suffering.


Not only do they not have real control but they are also scared of losing these ‘special’ butler benefits so they will do nothing to rock the boat. These people need to feel VIP because they know that when you are the blackface in a corporation, that’s all you are…..a black face.


It feels like black people have been looked down on, for so long, that they don’t want to be black anymore. So they think that the things which come with the west, will make them better than the other blacks.

That’s tragic.


The only way Afrika can rise is when the butler comes back to the people and we collectively take back the cake.

Kahle nje.